Goodness of a human being

Haiii dear pals,

It is quite debatable what goodness of a human being means? I would like to make an effort in bringing a few thoughts out about what goodness is all about from my own point of view.It was one such a day when, as usual, I was involved in performing one of my primary activities which included getting permission for installations of electronic equipment. Though I was doing the same activity for some time now, on that particular day I came across a situation wherein I experienced one the concept of goodness in a human being.

We, as social animal and trier of dedicated and obedient person for our profession for selfish reason classify and label and stereotype others into bad who doesn’t co-operate us and good who does co-operate us. Though categorization sounds good and fair to us as we look at the things from our own selfish perspective. We tend to forget the thinking process of opposite person and third person since they look at the same things completely different angle. For others we may sound not good as we are trying to do what we want selfishly without understanding the mind of other by being inconsiderate.

Inspired from an article on shampoos and an incident from my regular life I would like to discuss the aspect of goodness in a human being.

The article on shampoos talks of good and bad shampoos in the market and explains that there is in fact no good or bad shampoo in the market! Each shampoo has different effect on different hair textures and qualities. Hence as the judgement on products is relative from person to person so is it with every other aspect of life.

Working for a broadband company every time a new installation of the cable is made in a particular street or area I am required to install a switch in one of the resident’s premises.

Usually I am faced with many questions and the process can become very tasking. Each client is curious as to why it has to be installed in their residence.
This time it was with an Advocate’s residence and he lent me the permission to install this switch immediately. The whole process, for which I was prepared mentally, was supposed to be cumbersome, but turned out to be absolutely smooth.
The question was, Should I have to consider others who didn’t allow and permit me to keep the equipment inside their premises as not good persons? But answer was categorically NO. I asked myself, we as human being and social animal consider others who help us on the process good, who don’t as bad person [this word though vary in usage]I later on, took the word good back, though suitable at that moment but, saying to myself that the person who permitted was rather generous and broadminded. Though advocate was good at heart too. I said to myself that I can’t pigeonhole other who didn’t permit me as they have some internal and external problems and difficulties to help me in my activity.

Happy with the outcome I shared my experience with my colleague and called this Advocate (client) a good person.

Later in retrospect I thought of why I judged this person as a “good human being”. The way he is….

Depression

Dear Buddies,

This is to inform you all buddies out there that i have selected this topic which is untouched by others with intent of sheding the insight on the depressed people across the globe in order to help them overcome the deadly crisis called depression.Kindly join the hands with me to assist them mentally through this media and with this forum which is accessible and free to any depressed person who have passed through the phenomenon in thier life.My intention is to allow them to put accross thier feelings and experience to unburden themseves and live happily rest of life in the future.I am requestin u all to put across ur voice to this to let depressed person or surrounding people to behave with them in inspiring manner which brings thier happy life back .

Depression

We, in day to day life, witness a lot of people who are in depression which is expressed and communed verbally or non-verbally or with facial expression only. Depression might be fleeting pang feeling or long lasting strong feeling. Fundamentally and literally depression is something which lasts for longer time as shorter version of depression can be better called as sadness/sorrowfulness/ extreme of unhappiness/ higher degree of disparity/lack of hopefulness/disappointment/ frustration. Depression can be combination of aforementioned phenomenon or combination of few of those elements,

Depression is something that no one wants to experience and undergo frequently. But saying here that one can’t go through depression be it short or long run is illogical and unrealistic as everyone goes through that at some point of their life / at different stage of life. Every one is susceptible and vulnerable to this.

More importantly one has to bear in mind that without feeling sad now and then though nobody prefers to undergo. One can’t test the resilience and strongness of one’s personality and improve/work on becoming better person in the life. As it teaches the lessons of what is lacking in one and which is the area that is sensitive in one’s character. It is testing time of a person whether he/she can withstand and face the challenge. But there are situations which can’t be controlled and is out of out controlling ability.

Mysterious Question is why does one get sad or depressed? Though it is difficult to bracket everybody together in one category .Hence each has their own way of feeling depressed having possessed their strength and weakness in various areas of total personality. They will feel depressed and sad. As everyone hopes to achieve and acquire something and when someone fails to get what is expected from the situation/act/activity/event/someone or more ever when his/her ego will get dented by unexpected and unpleasant happenings.

What are the depressant that makes man to feel to have been depressed? Depressing factors have different kinds of impact on one. Something which depresses one can’t be potential enough to depress other one. So one which makes a person sad might not be necessarily a depressant to other person. But one who undergoes the period of depression can come back with strong person if he/she thinks it in right angle.

What are the typical characteristics of depressed person? The person who is depressed typically will be in pensive, hopeless mood. He looks at his/her life mostly from negative angle only. As he has not hopes and expectations from that act whether he/she can succeed in that .He/she tries to withdraw /distance/isolate himself /herself always. He/She will not be in position to perform any silly activity to him. For him/her world seems to have been lonely, cynical and selfish. One becomes as incompetent and diffident as ignorant child.

What is mentality of repeatedly depressed person? It is here significant to glimpse at this person as he/she has experienced this extreme several times in the past. It is highly plausible for this person to internalize the mindset of feeling depressed in the mind assuming that I am very sensitive and can’t overcome this forever. In the regard, It is recommended for him/her to pass through counseling sessions as it changes the enter perspective of looking at things of this person. He/she has to realize that it is not exactly the fault of this person, though; the person is trying to get over it. Positively speaking, situations can be against this person by being challenged by repetitive obstacles and stumbling blocks. It dents the confidence of this person.

How can we overcome that? The better way of dealing with depression is introspecting and realizing oneself that depression can be short-lasting if he wants to subdue it by looking at it from positive angle and scanning the situation to know the things which are depressing as one scans the virus on the computer to get rid of it and accepting that they are depressed and out of their element which are against them at this moment.
Past is past that can’t be taken back .Only what one can do is taking the good things that happened to us and feeling proud of ourselves for having tried to master that. One has to try to live in the moment rather than fostering or dwelling on the unpleasant feelings that haunt often.

One has to determine oneself that he/she has to challenge against it and overcome that at the earliest.Untill and unless one resolves within oneself whatever way they adopt to surmount that can’t be successful in the process. Where there is will, there is a way. Everyday is different and new to one as world is changing radically day by day. There are many ways available to depressed person to deal with that. By adopting meditation techniques, sharing with confidents whom he/she can believe and trust. But keeping one thing in mind they should go about this. Without allowing others to sympathize with depressed person again and again .As mercy may make that feeling resurface again. Here comes the need of counselor if it is really sever and serious .Other way is involving oneself in some other activities that one is partial of .As it takes the attention of depressed man to most liked activity .In return it brings a smile on the face and distract the mind altogether. Going to pleasant and refreshing place just for change of environment is also advisable idea as it refreshes and brings the radical changes in one’s mind and takes the depressed feelings away from the person. But it is imperative and indispensable for one to engage themselves with other positive person by helping and talking about something good always.

Role of other persons around him/her? Having said that by not feeling sympathatical with somebody deeply as it makes their situation still worse until and unless they want to share something with the person for relieving and unburdening themselves. It is better to feel sorry for a minute and assist emotionally and mentally them to become stronger by counseling them in friendly way without raking past out over and over.

Suresh
suresh2479@indiatimes.com

POEM ON AUTO

Dear buddies ,

It is important to shed light more about Auto in the form of poem.I was inspired by a spur of moment when having driven behind an Auto a couple of days ago.So that moment motivatated me to put the thoughs and lines in poem.Comments are most welcome.

Poem on Auto

Auto, Auto, Auto,
Three-wheeled Auto, Medium-sized Auto,

Having also known as Rick, Ricksha,
Driving also in kerosene for bicksha,

Using the word NO never in vocabulary,
Drowsing in no worries over and over in circulary,

Boasting with higher maneuverability,
Hoisting green-signaled flag with invariability,

Causing the blocks on the road,
Cruising the ride on the road,

Having been ready for any way,
Weaving in and out of way,

Placing a driver with brown,
Tracing a traveler with crown,

Driving from morning to late night,
Braving the elements in bad light,

Heartening the passenger with a ride,
Threatening the follower with a tide,

Fleecing the travelers for extra money,
Freezing the way for extra honey,

Taking circuitously the detours as addition,
Breaking incautiously the rules as tradition,

Hovering in the back head with thoughts,
Covering the back way with dust,

Hogging the way of pursuers,
Bogging the way of fellow-drivers

Doubling the rate of journey in the night,
Troubling the fate of journey in the Mr.Right,

Carrying in load in relay,
Tarrying in road in delay,

Paying cop extra for violation,
Baying at cop extra for negotiation,

Baking in the sun from dawn to dusk,
Taking no Bun and Rusk,

Supporting one other in the fraternity,
Rapporting none in the society,

Gushing out a large amount of smoke,
Rushing by not minding the use of also coke,

Running a duped meter for deceiving,
Cunning a dumbed payer for living '


Suresh.
suresh2479@indiatimes.com